welcome to our afternoons

i have been pouring my guts out to strangers on the internet for months now, so i figured it would be a good time to introduce (or reintroduce) afternoons with Harley!

i used to be the happiest girl in the world.


my life was an absolute dream. i had a fulfilling & exciting career, i was married to the man of my dreams that i could not get enough of & i was spending my spare time planning renovations for our big, old house that we had just bought.

my life was better than i deserved & i had everything i had ever wanted & more.

until the morning i woke up in my mama’s house with none of that.

no dream house, husband or purpose in life.

turns out that my life wasn’t actually as great as i had been believing.

i had ended up in a terrible situation with no choice but to leave & leave everything behind.

except for Harley, my little white dog & the only thing that got me out of bed.

i spent a lot of time laying around, crying & reading & writing with Harls curled up by my side.

each afternoon i would write out an inspirational quote in my notebook, snap a picture of it beside Harley & make it my display picture on my cell phone.

i hoped it would make me feel better.

and it did.

then i started writing my own affirmations & felt even better. after a while, i was slowly climbing out of the dark hole i had been sulking in.

but just when i thought i had faced the worst of the worst – i suffered a heartbreak that still has tears streaming down my face as i write this.

Harls had cancer.

i lost the only thing that brought me any kind of peace, any kind of feeling.

i lost my heart.

and honestly, i still haven’t recovered.

maybe i never will.

but i was left with endless amounts of pictures of her & notebooks upon notebooks full of words.

some painful, some absolutely pitiful & some promising to myself that i wouldn’t stop fighting for my happiness & rebuilding my life.

it was my afternoons with Harley that saved me.

and i’m sharing them now, in Harls’ memory that they might help others too.

i know i’m not the only gal who went through a toxic relationship or a bad marriage & i hope that afternoonswithharley.com becomes a community where we can come together, share our stories & support one another with whatever we are going through.

xxoo, k

6 thoughts on “welcome to our afternoons

  1. You have definitely gone through a lot of things in recent times. I hope that writing out your thoughts helps in these times but I also believe talking to others is also of great benefit at this time.

  2. The gift of being able to share your feelings is just that, a gift. Write when you are up to it, be silent when you don’t. Grieve when you need to. We are here for you when you feel like sharing. Take care.

  3. It is always better to say things out loud. For some reason it seems easier to deal with. I applaud you for doing this. So sorry for the loss of your dog. Their love is constant. Sending you all good wishes. Take care. Hugs 🤗

  4. I’m sorry to hear life has thrown so many hardships your way Kahla. It’s hard moving on from a relationship, but losing a friend too? I can’t imagine. I hope for the best for you.

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