‘no reason to stay is a good reason to go’
this quote stayed as my screensaver for months.
it was a simple, but strong reminder that i was making the right decision to leave my marriage – which had become the darkest place i have ever been.
and i’m thinking of this quote again because of a couple of interactions i’ve had over the last little while.
i’m trying to keep in mind that times are extremely stressful right now & it can be incredibly easy to let your fear or your anger get the best of you.
i’m trying to remember that people may be snappy or acting out of character due to the stress that’s happening in their own lives.
but these comments still got to me.
one came from an internet acquaintance who told me my blog was just me complaining, that i did this to myself by leaving my husband, my home & my ‘wonderful life’.
the second comment came from somebody really close to me who said i have nobody to blame but myself & that i ‘didn’t have to leave’.
and i guess both are right in a way.
i did choose to leave & i don’t have anyone to blame but me.
i could have stayed in my marriage, in my beautiful dream home with my incredibly handsome & accomplished husband – living what everybody thought was the perfect life.
i could have stayed in my palace that had become more like a prison. i could have stayed with somebody who spent the majority of his free time with other women.
i could have stayed shattered. sad. scared.
but one day i realized i had no reason to stay & i had every reason to go.
every reason to be leaving a bad or toxic relationship.
thankfully i had family that took me in, friends who supported my decisions & now readers who share their experiences with me through the blog & social media.
maybe the life i had looked great from the outside, looked like a life other women would have given anything for… but it wasn’t a good one on the inside.
and i want a life that looks & feels good – to me – from every angle.